Love Is Not a Permanent State of Enthusiasm
My first question has to do with your idea that the couple has never before been such a central unit in our social organization. Why is that the case?
Because never in the history of family life was the emotional well-being of the couple relevant to the survival of the family. The couple could be miserable for thirty years, you were stuck for life, you married once—and, if you didn’t like it, you could hope for an early death of your partner. Marriage was a pragmatic institution. You need to have it, but, once you’re in it, it’s not a great thing, and certainly not for the women.